Shakespeare in Love's Labours Lost, 1588: In the third line of the stanza above, it is mentioned that 'Beauty is bought by judgement of the eye'. I believe many would agree that both beauty and love is very much determined by the eye of the beholder. Interestingly, I chanced upon an article in BBC to find individuals with tendencies to select potential partners who are similar to their parents. This might provide explanations for how the 'judgement of the eye' comes about.Good Lord Boyet, my beauty, though but mean,
Needs not the painted flourish of your praise:
Beauty is bought by judgement of the eye,
Not utter'd by base sale of chapmen's tongues
many women and men alike, tend to select spouses who resemble their opposite-sex parent. As quoted, "Significant correlations between young men and their fathers-in-law are found especially on facial proportions belonging to the central area of face - nose and eyes." On the other hand, lips and jaw correlate for women and their mothers-in-law. Personally, I believe this kind of stimulus generalization can be justified, reason being that a sense of familiarity will arise in trying to associate similar appearances to our personal constructs. This perception of 'parents imprinting' is evident in women who have good relationships with their fathers and lost in women who have poor relationships with their fathers. This goes to show the impact physical appearance has in the introduction of a relationship.
On the contrary to selecting partners, have you wondered how we can appear to more attractive to others? Surprisingly, 'declaring love boosts sex appeal', quoted in http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7603530.stm.Reciprocity and liking to believed to have positive effects such as making eye contact and smiling. Such social cues are agreed upon in playing a crucial role in attraction. I would believe such 'validations' of reciprocity of liking do help people to have more confidence in starting a relationship.
Similarly, it was suggested that we can avoid wasting time on individuals who appear unlikely to reciprocate. In my opinion, understanding that others are not interested also minimizes chances of embarrassment and lost of self-esteem for individuals. Maybe one of the ways you learn your level of attractiveness is through how other people behave towards you. Hopefully, when we learn and understand more about such social cues, it will better us the abstract study of love and relationships. What do you think?
1 comment:
I am quite agree on the statement regarding 'declaring love boost sex appeal'. Although it sounds abstract to me and those , who have no love experience, it always appears in some scenes in the love show. However, the suggestion on avoiding those who appear unlikely to reciprocate, sounds rather bias. I guess there's still chances for that kind of person.
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